We have been spending at least one day a week and sometimes more cleaning Sirdar’s parents home. It has been a bit of a crazy couple weeks and in some ways the home looks more messy now than when we started however as with any major cleaning situation there is progress in the mess.
My MIL was very organized. Their home was always neat and tidy despite the many items they collected over the years. It is in going in to clean and purge one finds out just how much stuff they had. The closets in the home are full of boxes, and clothes. There are dressers and cabinets all full of clothes and paper. The filing of paperwork was meticulous with a new file for everything, each and every year. This was evidenced as we went through the files that started back in 1972. Because it is not necessary to have a file of car repairs with one receipt in it from 1972, we are able to discard these items. We are doing this via fire. July 1st, rather than go out celebrating, we sat by our fire pit and and threw files into the fire, one at a time until the 5 boxes we brought home were consumed. We have since collected 3-4 more boxes, some of which are files and other paper that has been saved. We are careful what we discard, sorting through boxes and drawers making sure to keep things of interest and of value. There are historical papers that are quite fascinating and when we can take some time and breathe we would like to take more time to read “the story”. We all have a story and the amazing part of sorting through someone’s past is the opportunity to see, hear, feel their story. I seem to think in the present and have a difficult time sometimes considering older people being young or having gone to school. It was so interesting to find a school binder of my MIL (who is 89) with her notes from physics, math and French and to see her meticulous notes. A quick browse let me know what the leather, zippered binder contained and it has been put away to puruse another day. With the amount of stuff in their home we are currently just trying to clean and get rid of some of the boxes and clothes and take out trash, and recycling and good will items. Once we list the home and it sells we will clean it out completely. With all the other stuff going on, we are just doing what we can to get to a goal.
Still on the topic of my in-laws, we were informed today that my FIL will be moved from the hospital acute bed (which the system needs freed up) to a care facility and hour and 45 minutes from us. This means not only will he be 45 minutes from where he lived before and where we are trying to clean his home, but we will be traveling there to take care of the things he needs and perhaps drive him to appointments in the city. He is still on the waiting list to be close to us, but we are not sure how long that will take. It is stressful for us because he is not doing well with his attitude and demeanour. It seems he will never improve and he doesn’t want to. Living 45 minutes from his wife and his only reason for living is not going to improve his life and this is stressing us. The good new is we don’t have to move him until next Tuesday. My concern was we would have to do that this week which would have been just beyond crazy.
Before I talk about this week, I have to mention last week. On the 5th we went to Olds to my cousin’s son’s wedding. It was a lovely wedding and we had a great time with family. My cousins (dad’s brother’s kids), grew up a few km from us and we all went to school and church together and youth. When my cousin K was in grade 8, and I in grade 7, there was one of us in every grade down to one, alternating between our families. As adults we have been fortunate that one of the aunt’s (dad’s sister) has a lake cabin and every year hosts a family reunion and we have only missed one over the last 20 some years. This has allowed cousins to keep in touch and the kids to meet and keep in touch and FB also helps. A couple of the this particular family live a few hours north, one lives in southern Alberta and the youngest J and his family live in Missouri. J and J came up with their 5 kids and 2 guests and in the past have stayed at our home and our kids and theirs have always really connected. They haven’t been up for 8 years so it was great to see them and last week they were coming to our area in their whirlwind trip and going to the mall and wanted to see my family. I took this as my parents and siblings so decided to host a midweek bbq for 28 people. The cousins (all 9 of them) were staying that night and leaving for home in the morning. My family all showed up but my sister who was on business out of town. It went well despite the many little things that seemed to go wrong (dog puking, running out of propane to name a couple). Anyway, the cousins were thrilled and touched that everyone would show up, and we had a splendid time with them. Chadya and I even got to spend some time at the mall and we got dresses for Jacinta’s wedding.
Jacinta’s wedding is coming up in 5 days. I had ordered a dress according to my measurements but it was too small. So last minute I am looking in stores for a dress. Thankfully I found one. Today we went to get Sirdar a shirt and tie to fit in with the rest of us. We are all wearing blue which is not the wedding colours. The wedding colours is light tangerine with grey. The family photos will look great. Apart from shopping which was a minor part of wedding stuff, we have had some last minute things to get done. I am working on decorating the guest book and gathering the ‘where we came from’ photos. Thankfully my mom had a frame on her wall with my grandparents and some of my great grandparents in the frame so were are using it as is with labels. And I found a photo of Sirdar’s grandparents also. The favours still need to be finished and the hall decorated on Friday. I went for my hair appointment today with my mom and sister as is our custom and now that there is a dog grooming place attached, took George for a hair cut too. I am getting nails done on Wednesday and you know, just because I am busy with other things, doesn’t mean things here don’t continue. For instance, I still have to feed my chickens, wash eggs, and make food, and I haven’t done a proper grocery run in a couple of weeks. The weather has been spectacular and warm here and we are counting on the forecast for Saturday to be accurate and to have a beautiful day for an outdoor wedding. I am feeling stressed but have prayed for God’s spirit daily and I have felt abundant peace through all the crazy days. In a few days the wedding will be done; the beginning of our daughter and her husband’s new life together. They are going to an all inclusive for a week to just relax. They need it. Jacinta has been going strong for quite awhile. Her last semester had an extra course/part time work and then she went straight into a full time job from school plus taking another course in the evening for 6 weeks. With that, they were looking for a house and had some problems in the end but finally got their home and have been moving stuff in the last couple weeks along with cleaning. And of course all the last minute wedding stuff.
So, on Saturday, July 19th, we will have Jacinta and Darius’ wedding, we will celebrate Jacinta’s 23rd birthday and we will celebrate our 27th wedding anniversary. Actually, we will probably go out a different night for our anniversary since the focus will be on Jacinta and Darius. It will be a great anniversary though.